Wednesday, July 28, 2010

The Best Cities For Working Mothers - Where's Orange County?

Forbes just released their list of cities that offer the most to working women.  I assume they just lumped Orange County into the L.A. area, because I can't imagine being worse than Las Vegas or Miami.
Job opportunities, high earnings potential and a budget-friendly cost of living come into play in choosing a great city, not to mention employment rates (ideally high) as well as women's average weekly earnings. But it's also important for moms to look into other factors too, like health care.
Here is the complete list of top cities according to Forbes.

Perhaps I should move to Minneapolis or back up to the Seattle area...

Monday, July 19, 2010

Job Interview at 4 Months Pregnant

Last week, out of the blue, a friend sent me a job posting for a job and company that I had interviewed for over a year ago.  I never got the job because they wanted someone with more agency experience.  Since my friend works for the company, she recommended me for the job and they contacted me again.

Pregnant woman on cell phone
We spoke on the phone and had a really good, candid conversation.  I let her know my concerns of being 4 months pregnant and switching jobs, and she was understanding.  She stressed that they were a family friendly company, offered flex time as most people who worked there had families. 
We set up an interview for just a few days following.  I was initially so excited that I just wanted to jump ship right then and there.  Then, my hesitation and fear crept in - or call it my rational, mature mind.  In no way do I love my current job 100%, but I realize it's very hard to find a job that meets almost all my criteria like my current one does.  Flexibility, part time, location, title/position, chosen career field, ability to be creative, not too demanding, excellent benefits, my own office with a great view and a gym in the building.

Anywhere I work I know I will get annoyed with the person I work for and the people I work with and the annoyance of even going to work in the first place.  So I stifled my initial excitement and asked myself if I REALLY wanted to make a job change at this particular time of being 4 months pregnant.  The answer was no. 

Changing jobs is almost like dating.  You crave the interest and attention of the new suitor, but you don't want to lose the stability and predictability of your current relationship.  Initially you think, "Hell yeah I'll go out with you!  That will be so much more fun!" Then the guilt sets in that you're going to cheat on your significant other and how is it going to look and you're instantly torn about what you should do.  I've always been a job hopper and a relationship hopper.  The grass IS always greener on the other side of the fence for me. 

But right now, I don't want to lose the medical benefits, the maternity leave, the time invested, and the peace of knowing a job and a company.  I really prayed for an answer from God hoping he would tell me what to do.  He didn't, as he never does, but I keep hoping he'll speak to me so I can just choose the right path instead of bumbling around all the time. 

I ended up emailing them to cancel the interview with the reason that after further consideration, it's just not a good time for a job change.  However, if they want to re-visit it in March, I'll be willing, of course...

To be honest, however much I love my chosen career field and working, I don't know how I'm going to manage 3 kids and continue to work when the baby is born.  I'm sure I can still manage to do it, but you never know.  I would rather quit working completely at this point than switch jobs, trading for a different kind of stress and annoyance.  I always want to earn money but I am growing increasingly irritated by working for companies.  I don't desire to become rich or climb any ladder, I just want to have a good life filled with substance and meaning.  I wish I could be more in a work from home role or run my own small business or write professionally.

Woman on floor typing on typewriter
I signed up for an online creative writing class through a writing program and I'm really excited to get started with that.  I would love to move away from business and marketing writing styles to creative writing and have more direction in that regard.  I also need more discipline for a writing lifestyle.  I'm praying that I can see this one through, instead of being a flake like I usually am about my hobbies/interests.
I think I will start a writing notebook for inspiration and writing prompts and set up a creative, inspiring writing corner in my office.  Set up a nice area where I can hopefully avoid distraction and not be connected to the internet.  That is my ultimate downfall. 


Thursday, July 8, 2010

Clever Little Chickadee

This morning on the drive to daycare, my littlest chickadee, who is ever so bright, asked me what was wrong.  I was pouting and moaning to myself because the morning routine and always being late stresses me out and I just want to feel sorry for myself sometimes.

She said, "What's wrong Mommy? You miss your mommy?" 

"Yeah, I miss my Mommy."

"She died?"

"No, she didn't die. She just lives far away and she doesn't take care of me. She doesn't call to check on me either."

"She gave you a poison apple?" 

I had to laugh at that one.  Yeah, she sure did give me a poison apple!

So we chatted a bit going over everything again a few times, then she said, "Be happy Mommy!  Today is a happy day!" 

Smiling Young Girl Holding Pom Poms and Standing on One Leg

"You're right.  Today IS a happy day."

And she kept repeating it.  "Today is a happy day.  Be happy Mommy!"  She was so perfectly sweet and optimistic.  I needed that little cup of cheer and I hope to remember it every time I feel sorry for myself.  I'm so happy to have her on my cheer squad.  My mom has no clue what she is missing out on with her beautiful and sweet granddaughters who bring people so much joy. 

Wednesday, July 7, 2010

I've Got a Little Penis in Me!

It's official! We are breaking our pink streak with a baby boy!! Yay!

I would be happy with another girl, but having something different will add a new vibe to our family.Sucking baby
I psyched Daddio out at dinner by giving him a 'congrats it's a girl' card. I videotaped the whole thing and on the back of the card I wrote (c) 2010 J/K Cards "Psyche! Fooled Ya!" He didn't know what to believe. Then he asked the littlest chickadee and she confirmed she's having a brother. Then we broke out the ultrasound pics. That was one of my best tricks yet.

So, my only hang up right now is that I pray that people refrain from saying "little man" when referring to him. I can't stand that term!! Call him little dude, or guy, or boy - but not man. That is like nails down a chalkboard for me.

Let the planning and shopping begin!

Friday, July 2, 2010

Baby Gender Discovery

I got to get a peek at the baby today!  I now know the gender!!
Baby's Legs and Feet
I'm going to meet Daddy Poo for dinner and surprise him.  BUT - I am going to tell him the opposite one first then reveal the truth. 
I'm so glad to know what we're having!  Now it's on to planning and shopping!! Name brainstorming and more shopping!