Tuesday, December 27, 2011

What's Your Plan?

I hate it when I can’t articulate my muddled thoughts.  “What’s your plan?” - a question fairly benign, but still loaded.  It’s a common question I’ve been asked since getting terminated from my job last year.  I just had another chat with my step-mother-in-law to discuss my employment plan.  To be honest, my ‘plan’ if you want to call it that, has always been to freeload off the government for as long as possible, and then decide if I’m going to get another job or continue to try to see if I can make a living writing.  
 Stock Photography - Plan
© Photographer: Michael Kempf | Agency: Dreamstime.com

So I haven’t really made a lot of money off my writing yet, but I’ve sure enjoyed it this past year.  I find it very rewarding.  Working for a corporate entity - not so much.  But I can’t say anything negative to my step-MIL because to her, whenever I say anything like this it sounds like I’m a whiner or complainer.  Probably so.  I am a wee bit fatigued and grouchier than those who don’t have small children, but give me a chance.  

She asked me to tell her about the job lead I have, but I’ve suddenly forgotten all about it.  It seems so long ago and almost like a dream when I got the phone call and email.  It’s not a lost opportunity; just put on hold until after the holidays.  I’m excited, but not too much.  I want it, but not too badly.  I’m pathetic, I know.  I need to be able to get excited about SOMETHING!  I am excited about my blog, but when I told her a little about the blogging I’m learning about, she said, “You mean the kind that make millions by just writing about waking up and getting their coffee everyday?”  Hmmmm… how to respond????

I tried to mention that there is a little more to it than that - current events, being out and about in your city, reviews, etc.  Still a disinterested expression and minimizing. Oh well.  If I would have brought up some names of professional women bloggers who are a brand entity, her eyes would have really rolled.

Then I babbled about how I took some small business classes, I wrote 50,000 words of a novel, I serve on a non-profit committee, I’d like to continue to freelance and I have some entrepreneurial ideas...  The more I talked, the more I sounded like a non-focused loon.  I’m sure she was thinking, “Just get a job or admit that you are a homemaker.”  Which I will most certainly not – yet. 

I told her I want to continue to work in my field, but not in such a corporate setting.  For an asshole – I say more quietly.  I know she wanted to tell me that bad bosses are everywhere and to just suck it up.  I’m sure she’s told me that before.  She said once, “Have you ever liked any of your bosses?”  The answer – “Mostly no.  I have an aversion to authority figures due to my lack of parental nurturing.”

I like what I do for a profession, I have helped promote her company as well as others since getting laid off.  I would love to continue to do the same and get PAID for it.  We both agree that being a parent of three doesn’t really allow me to work from home with the responsibility of kids.  But that daycare is pricey, so the work better pay off if I’m using it. 

About my son, she said, “He’s ready for a more social setting.”  Ah okay, I’ll just go right back to work and start taking him to daycare, little chickadee to preschool and big chickadee to elementary school.  Three kids in three different places = one frazzled mom.  I’m just riding it out right now.  I don’t need to decide today, but I should decide in the next six months. 

Now that I’m weaning the l’il chicken hawk, I’ll have my body back completely and hopefully my moods will even out.  It just frustrates me that she will often ask me these questions that I don’t quite know how to answer because she doesn’t really listen to my responses anyway and doesn’t find value in the latest technology or trends.  I might as well lie and say that I just am happy to be a mom and a wife and cater to their every needs, foregoing my own.  The End.  Sure, it’s a boldfaced lie, but at least I’d be committing to something.    

Monday, December 19, 2011

Value Condoms

I purchased these value condoms at Big Lots last week for $5.99. We'd recently used our last one - the old one that's been sitting around in the back of the bedside drawer taunting us all year.  This new box of 'BEST VALUE - Value Pack' of LifeStyle Ultra Sensitive lubricated condoms with spermicide should last us well over a year, maybe even two years, as there are 40 in the box. 

If you calculate that we have sex maybe once a month, that equals 12 condoms a year at .15 a condom or $1.80 a year.   That is a very cheap cost of birth control compared to the pill but just a little bit more expensive than abstinence (or masturbating).

I'm not 100% sure they will prevent pregnancy, however.  I am a fertile Myrtle and too much value in condoms might be playing with fire potential offspring.  I didn't even check to see if they are expired or recalled.  Can condoms be recalled?  I read a statistic once that said that there are known manufacturing defects in condoms - I can't take that risk. 

My husband is avoiding making an appointment for a vasectomy, and I refuse to take any more pills or have extra estrogen in my body.  Nor will I get an IUD or a tubal ligation.  I've undergone enough with three pregnancies and births and breastfeeding.  His turn! 

The box says, "Almost like wearing nothing at all!"  Yikes - in what way? Sensation or the lack of ability to stop the stampede of sperm?

So if I end up pregnant in 2012, you'll know how and why it happened. 

By the way, the Trojan condom commercials that they air on the radio and TV at all hours of the day embarrass me - they are so graphically sexual and lewd.  I'm not a total 'Goody Two Shoes', so I'm sure it offends others as well.

What do you use for birth control?  Is it working for you?

Sunday, December 18, 2011

The Burden of Dogs

I recently wrote a confession over at the Sarcastic, Funny and Brutally Honest blog about my disdain for dogs. 

How timely then, that I just saw Frugal Dad's recent infographic on 'America's Pet Frenzy'.  It just reinforces my dislike for having dogs at this time in my life (or ever again).

To be fair, I don't like my cat right now either.

Source: frugaldad.com

Friday, December 16, 2011

DownEast Basics Mixer at Irvine Spectrum

On November 30th, local bloggers were invited to a holiday mixer at a women's and girl's clothing store in the Irvine Spectrum - DownEast Basics. It was an evening of shopping and mingling with other SoCal blogger chicks, which is always makes for a great time!
I met up with Alma from Field Trip Mom, Amy from The Mom Bot, Leila from Don't Speak Whinese and several other awesome bloggers I met for the first time.
Roundabout Cardi
I bought an adorable burnt-orange (otherwise known as ginger spice) 'Roundabout Cardi'. It is a flowing cardigan that is very thin, soft and comfy - but also very stylish and flattering.  It cost $31 on sale.  I wore it the first week of getting it and received a lot of compliments (mainly from daughters, my main audience, but that's beside the point.)

DownEast Basics is all about guilt-free shopping: offering boutique looks at bargain basement prices. You can see the fun new holiday trends infused in their clothing line from their designer Andrea Updike.  They just opened shop in Irvine in July and are trying to spread the excitement and buzz. 

It is conveniently located near H&M and Anthropologie and the best place to park is near the Target store.  I thought it was very easy to get to, a very inviting store, with warm, friendly employees.  It makes for a very pleasant shopping experience.  There were also a lot of opportunities for savings with buying promotion and sales.  There are a lot of various clothing and accessories styles, not just one type, which is good for every-BODY.

Here are some of the pictures from the mixer on DownEast’s Facebook page
See if you recognize anyone.

Although the attire is adorable and affordable, at this season in my life, I can't justify shopping for myself or the l'il chickadees at this price point.  I am really down to the necessities these days since my unemployment check is spread so thin with all the fundraisers, babysitters, Christmas shopping...

Spreading a little PR love: DownEast Basics is offering to donate $5K to families in need via the nonprofit The Road Home. If they get 5K new Facebook fans by Christmas Eve.  Please share the message with your social network. ‘Like’ DownEast Basics on Facebook (and tell your friends too!). If they get 5K new fans by 12/24/11 – they’ll donate $5K worth of clothes to families in need through The Road Home.

(Copy and paste the previous sentence on Facebook, Twitter and your other social sites.)

Disclaimer: I was provided a $25 DownEast Basics gift card to facilitate writing a review of the store.