Monday, June 4, 2012

Reflections on My 20 Year High School Reunion

My 20 year high school reunion is fast approaching and I'm gearing up for it. It will be in Washington state, so I'll be flying up for it with the whole fam damily and I'm actually excited, yet slightly uninterested at the same time. Thinking about high school and my hometown gives me mixed emotions of happiness and melancholy. I'm glad I moved away, but I miss it too. I miss my friends, but I'm glad I've made new friends elsewhere in the country.

According to our Facebook Group that is set up for our reunion communication, it appears there is much less interest in the event than the committee anticipated and they continue to push for more RSVPs. One of my funny, athlete friends that I've known since grade school is friends with practically everyone across all groups/cliques, she responded to a post that the class president (who she despises) wrote. I found the thread to be very amusing.

Class President: Momentum has slowed a bit on adding members or getting emails...please take look again at the missing classmates document and add them to the Facebook group or email them the date and location of the reunion. Thanks!
Friend: Some "missing" classmates just don't care about the reunion, etc. They see and/or are in contact with who they want to be, already. Some are excited and looking forward to reunions, others don't bat an eye. Knowing our 20th is approaching, it would be easy for many to get a hold of people about it, they just don't want to, ya know.
Another response from a guy in our class:  I agree with [name withheld to protect the innocent]! To me, high school was a barrier to overcome before I could join the real world. I do not cling to memories from high school (good or bad). It was a part of my life that is in the past. I doubt that I will be joining in the festivities.
This is great! I love this response because it is so dead on. It's been 20 years, but it seems like the same tired clique wants to dominate over this event and assert their impotent powers over the masses. I'm happy that this former "nobody" stepped up and spoke his mind to say "you're just not that important to me".

For me, even though I wasn't really that significant or popular a person in my high school, I grew up in the same town my whole life. I knew a lot of the same people throughout school years. I made a few very close friends in high school that helped me blossom as a student and a person. I hung out with many different groups and went to many parties where everyone hung out. I just didn't feel like I totally fit in with some of the popular people because of my socioeconomic background, my dysfunctional family, my disinterest in academics, extracurricular sports, college prep activities and the inability to kiss anyone's ass.

However, I am very proud of the life I've built and how far I've actually gone in my life, on my own hard work and determination. It's not that I totally want to brag at the reunion by saying "HEY LOOK AT ME!", but I do want to show up with confidence and pride, showing that I AM someone and I did beat the statistics and vastly exceeded the low expectations people may have had for me. I did not end up getting knocked up, dropping out, getting hooked on drugs and marrying a loser - that is a success all in itself!

To the contrary, I graduated with a 'pretty good' GPA, served my country in the military, traveled, went on the get a bachelors and masters degrees, have progressed in my career, married a nice guy and have had three beautiful children. I haven't gotten involved with any questionable lifestyles or fallen too far off the tracks with character flaws or "bad choices", but I'm sure I could have very easily.

So I will be going to my 20 year high school reunion and treating it like an adventure. The people I went to school with and I have a shared history and I am genuinely interested in how everyone has developed and changed (good and bad). I know for a fact though that I'M LOOKING GOOD! Tee hee hee.

Read My Reunion Recap Here

19 comments:

  1. How fun! Do you know what you're going to wear yet??

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    1. Desiree, I'm thinking super tight jeans pegged at the bottom and ultra neon t-shirt - just like high school. Or maybe an old prom dress from the early 90s. Flannel and combat boots? Well, nah - I haven't quite figured it out yet. Wanna come along?

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  2. I hope you have a great time at your reunion!

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    1. Thanks! I will make sure I have a good time! I'm homesick in a bad way.

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  3. Enjoy your reunion. My 20 was last year and about half decided not to go, me being one of them.

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    1. Did you hear any good stories afterwards?

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  4. I hated high school and don't care to revisit it. I just hit the 10 year mark and with Facebook and all, reunions to me are even somewhat obsolete. I talk to who I still want to talk to already :)

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    1. That is a very good point about Facebook making reunions obsolete. I'm all for making the reunion a fun, entertaining experience and not the seen and be seen BS that I'm envisioning.

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  5. I was 8 months pregnant and on bed rest at my 10 year and I have a feeling I will find an excuse to skip the 20 year. High school was definitely not the highlight of my life.

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    1. I hear you!! I would not want to go to a reunion 8 months pregnant. Even if I wasn't on bed rest. Too exhausting with small talk.

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  6. How exciting!! I have not gone back for any of my reunions yet...maybe the next one.

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    1. You would do great at a reunion Shelby! You seem very sociable and enthusiastic! I have to psych myself up - almost like attending a BlogHer solo.

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  7. I share your sentiments exactly, I could take it or leave it. I kinda want to go because , hey why not. I don't have anything to hide but just maybe a little to prove. I'm pretty proud of how I turned out as well. In school I was pretty shy and quiet except with a few close friend, who knows I could have bee perceived as bitchy for all I know. These days I am pretty happy go lucky, sociable and in my hum ble opinion fun to be around! I am happily married , have a nice home, and 3 great kids. Let's get back ti the 3 kids part, I'm just going to throw this out there.... After having my uterus invaded 3 times I am still the same size I was in high school. So there. Boobs are lower however! So yes sadly I just went and spent far too many dollars on a great pair of jeans to deliberately hIghlight the fact that I don't have a huge ass! I kind of also wouldn't mind seeing the boyfriend I had way back when and let him see what he dumped. I've seen a picture of his wife in Facebook and she looks like a troll.

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    1. Love it! You will be smoking hot as usual, even though your normally huge boobs may have deflated a millimeter or two. You have a lot to be proud of, but I always did think you were grandiose to begin with. ha ha ha

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  8. Be sure to get a good Victoria's Secret bra and a full Brazilian. Well you can see where my mind's been all day. All roads lead to the geriatric lady bits.

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    1. Shannon you make me laugh! I'm with you on the VS bra, but draw the line on getting a full Brazilian. It might be cold up north and I'll need the extra warmth from my overgrowth. Unless of course there is a spontaneous hot tub party... Something to consider.

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  9. This is great and so true. My 20th was last summer and I did not go. I did not hate high school, but it is not anything I am looking to repeat and like you I kind of drifted amongst groups. I did want to go back to just "show them" how well things did turn out. In the end the reunion ended up being at a bad time for my family so I had to just be content that Facebook was "showing" them enough!

    Have fun!

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  10. I went to one HS reunion...sigh...some people were just as I remembered them in good and bad ways... Enjoy and have fun!!!

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  11. My 20th college reunion is next summer. I don't think I need to say any more than that about myself.

    For you? Well, be proud. You may reconnect with high school friends and realize you always had more in common with your classmates than you ever knew. we were all too busy being young and stupid when we were young and stupid to really notice what the deal was with everyone around us.

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